I was brought up where we did things ourselves. Seldom did we rely on help from others, because to put it bluntly, others were not always that reliable.
That’s just the way it was.
So I developed into someone who relied solely on myself and my abilities.
Was that bad?
Well, I would say being self-reliant was both good and bad.
On the good side, I took initiative, I did not sit back, I did not hesitate, I got going, I jumped in with both feet, and I taught myself what to do or needed to know.
On the bad side, I made mistakes and I learned from those mistakes.
Some set me back, big time.
What I have learned from those mistakes, is that I can’t do it all myself.
I need to get help from others.
I need their advice, guidance, support, understanding, assistance, clarification, knowledge and expertise, to name a few.
“Ask for help not because you are weak, but because you want to remain strong.”- Les Brown
This past year I have been working on a project that is not going well, in my mind.
I was not happy with the way it was progressing but was unsure of how to fix it.
My instincts and my ego told me that I could fix it. It was up to me.
Yes, I was Wonder Woman! I did not need help from anyone.
But something inside me, told me that I needed to get help, that I did not have the ability to fix it myself.
So, I turned to people I knew could help me. And I am so glad I did as they helped me get through the roadblock.
I realized that it is not a sign of weakness to seek out the help you need. In fact it is the smart thing to do.
I see this happening with my team members as well, where they don’t want to reach out because, deep down they may feel a sense of weakness if they do.
But to really get ahead in business and in life we must seek help.
So, if you are stuck or need specific expertise, seek out support from those that can help you – mentors, coaches, trainers, financial experts, etc.
You will not regret it and you will be stronger in the long run.
“Be strong enough to know when you can do things on your own and smart enough to know when you need help from others.” – Deborah MacDonald
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